Episode #254: The Pause of 2020
TAYLOR BRADFORD: You were listening to episode number 254 of the Boss Girl Creative podcast. Today I’m reading a letter to remember “The Pause of 2020.” On to the episode.
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Hey, welcome to episode 254 of the Boss Girl Creative podcast. I’m your host, Taylor Bradford. Thank you so much for pressing play today. I am going to be reading you a letter that I’ve written to my future self about “The Pause of 2020”. So I can’t take credit for this idea; actually, my friend, Alicia, wrote her pause letter to her future self, which inspired today’s episode, and I encourage you to do the same because we are in uncharted territory at the moment during Coronavirus, COVID-19. And I think it’s important that we can reflect to our future selves that we can talk about this time as it is now because it’s historic. It is of historic proportions. And I think it basically needs to be remembered. I feel like it needs to be remembered.
Dear Future Self,
Remember “The Pause of 2020”. The pause started in March of 2020. And it was this crazy overwhelming period of complete shutdown that included shelter-in-place orders. What started the pause? COVID-19. Phrases like social distancing and shelter in place became everyday vocabulary. Non-essential businesses were ordered to close. Schools were canceled. Weddings and live events came to a standstill. Brides had to postpone their weddings and celebrations. Life as we knew it ceased. A nation built upon gathering can no longer gather. There are no sports. Again, a nation’s pastime is currently no longer. Congress has tried to bail out small businesses, but it’s a daunting feat. What happened in your own world? You had to put your house-building on pause. You watched oil prices go negative, which correlates to your day job. You were stolen from a thief cut your fence and broke into one of your containers and stole $2,000 worth of your husband’s tools. He also tried to break into your big trailer but was unsuccessful. However, he did break the back door to that trailer in the process and beat it multiple times with his bolt cutters. You had a 39th birthday and quarantine. You had a major move into your new warehouse. You sold your 1954 GMC pickup truck to pay for your warehouse HVAC, your husband’s 1992 Corvette caught on fire in the garage. Thankfully he was able to get the fire out before it made its way to the actual garage and house. You couldn’t see your friends, so it was Marco Polo and Zoom chats galore. You started counseling. All of your spring brides postponed to later dates. One canceled outright. You lost your entire summer booking season. But outside of all of this crazy, do not forget the good. Do not forget that you had your spouse beside you through it all. Do not forget the slow moments. Do not forget the friendships that were deepened. Do not forget the to-do lists you’re actually able to make your way through. Do not forget the adventures you were still able to have. Do not forget that your best friend snuck down on your birthday to spend time with you, even though you had to practice social distancing. Do not forget the friends who sent birthday boxes to help you celebrate in quarantine. Do not forget the pivots you made in business. You started Sugar Creek Collective at 2 am one morning, a vintage living online shop. You launched micro-weddings and petite studio rentals to start booking in the fall of 2020. You focused on growing IvoryandInk.com. Do not forget that you reached out for your mental health and started counseling. The better help ambassadorship was serendipitous. Do not forget that your day job gave you busy work to try and hold you over during this time. Do not forget that you leaned into the unconventional unicorn mindset. All in all, remember the great. Remember the good. Remember the people who worked hard at staying connected with you. Remember the grace you gave yourself. Because this pause? It has so many unknowns. I hope as you read this or listen to this in the future that you can look back on the pause and remember what a major milestone this was in history and what you were able to accomplish even in all of the chaos. You are resilient. You are unconventional. You are a badass.
I hope that you will take a moment to write to your future self about “The Pause of 2020.” How it made you feel, what it made you do, what actions you took, what you were able to accomplish, what overwhelmed you, the good, the bad, the ugly, I want you to record it. I want you to write it down and write that letter to your future self about “The Pause of 2020.” I hope you’ll do that. I challenge you to do that.
Thank you so much for listening to this quick episode of the Boss Girl Creative podcast. It has definitely been an interesting season for sure. But I will be back next week with another episode, and I hope you’ll be back with me. Thank you again for today’s show sponsor. Go to TryBetterHelp.com/bossgirl to receive 10% off your first month. I promise you, mental health is so important, and there’s nothing to be ashamed about when you reach out for help. This is the perfect opportunity. TryBetterHelp.com/bossgirl.