Episode #252: The Importance of Self-Care
TAYLOR BRADFORD: You’re listening to episode number 252 of the Boss Girl Creative podcast. Today I’m back with the final pillar in the 8+1 Pillar Series, and it’s all about self-care. On to the episode.
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Hey, welcome to episode number 252. I’m your host, Taylor Bradford. I’m excited that you pressed play on this particular episode. It is pillar number nine. It’s the bonus pillar in the 8+1 Pillar Series. So we’re wrapping up this series today, and it’s all about self-care, which in the time of Corona if you’re listening to this right now is very, very important. And, yeah, if you’re not practicing self-care right now, you’re going to need to do that as soon as possible because even with this crazy, normal, new normal, crazy normal, it is definitely something that’s very important. Especially if you have little kids at home and you became their teacher, literally overnight.
So, like I said, this is the bonus pillar. It’s all about self-care today. Self-care is important to maintain a healthy relationship with yourself, as it produces positive feelings and boosts confidence and your self-esteem. It is not something that you just decide to do on a whim. It’s definitely something that you need to incorporate into your daily routine, or at least your weekly routine. because it reminds you that you and your needs are important. And there’s various types of actual self-care there’s physical self-care, emotional, self-care, spiritual, mental, practical, and social self-care. There’s various types of self-care, and all of them are important, and you just figure out what is the best kind for you or the best type for you.
Living Self-Care says, “Self-care tends to improve our immunity, increase positive thinking, make us less susceptible to stress, depression, anxiety, and other emotional health issues. All very, very important, especially in the times we are facing. Right now, more and more of my friends are saying that they are falling into depression because this isn’t our regular normal this time that we’re in right now has all kinds of things happening. All kinds of unknowns happening and for those of us that like to plan for the future, and even if you’re like a weekly planner, it’s really hard to make a weekly plan with constant changes every single day.
Here are some self-care books that you might want to take a peek at. I will link them all in the show notes. The Self-care Solution, Self-care for the Real World, This Self-care Prescription, This Self-care Project, and The Little Book of Self-care. Again, I’ll link all of those in the show notes for today’s episode, which you can get to if you pop over to bossgirlcreative.com/episode-guide, or click the Start Here button when you land on the homepage up in the navigation bar.
So Psychology Today provides 12 ways to better take care of yourself. And these are great ways to get started with number one is making sleep part of your self-care routine. This is very important for my own self-care routine. I try and get at least eight hours of sleep every night. I know. For some of you that’s might be impossible, but sleep is important. So making an effort towards having better sleep or more mindful times when you’re going to start getting ready for bed is absolutely necessary.
Number two, take care of your gut. That would be your gut health, making sure that you’re either taking a supplement if you aren’t eating the right types of foods or just adding the supplement as an addition to protecting your gut and taking care of your gut, it’s very important.
Number three is exercising regularly and actually creating a routine that allows you to exercise regularly if it’s not daily, and I think sometimes that can be overwhelming is to making time for exercise daily. But you know, as simple as getting up and going for a walk around the block counts as some kind of physical activity. So exercise regularly is very, very important.
Eating right is number four, taking care of your body from the inside out is very important. A very, very important self-care tactic.
Number five saying no to others but saying yes to yourself. So a friend of mine has rejected the hustle movement, Allyson Twiggs Dyer, and it’s all about slowing down and not feeling the need to hustle all the time. So this falls right in line with that saying no to others, but saying yes to yourself, rejecting that hustle.
Number six, take a self-care trip. Now, obviously right now, that’s kind of hard. But once we have our new normal, whatever that might look like, take a self-care trip, maybe pop over to the next town and explore the sights or take a trip down to a winery or you know, spending a day just outside of what your regular normal is, is going to be very, very good for your soul and for your mind. So veering away from your normal is a good thing.
Number seven, taking breaks daily and getting yourself outside, especially when the sun is out. It’s good dose of vitamin D from the sun.
Getting a pet can help with your self-care. Although last night I was talking to my best friend and her dog, is name is Lola, her name is Lola, and she is not a cuddler. And that’s kind of what my friend needs right now. And she was like Lola was mean. She doesn’t like to cuddle. But getting a dog just can, or a pet, can just help you with self-care because that is something that needs your love and attention and provides unconditional love and attention right back to you.
Number nine, probably a really important one, is getting organized and keeping yourself organized because clutter and just chaos can reduce your productivity and probably stress you out or allow for you to be stressed out. So getting organized is important for a self-care routine.
Cooking at home, which I know a lot of us are doing more and more of because of our current routines and current normal. But cooking at home is a really great way for self-care
Reading a book, whether it be nonfiction or fiction, giving yourself something to occupy your mind in a different manner.
And then scheduling in your actual time for self-care and making that a priority in your life. Self-care is so incredibly important, and if you don’t make time first for yourself, you’re not doing your body, your mind, your soul, your heart a service, or you’re doing yourself a disservice.
So I found a website, getmombalanced.com. 101 self-care activities. I’m going to link to it in the show notes because I’m not going to go through all 101 options, but here are some ways additional ways for some self-care activities. A long walk, a hot bath, movie with friends. I thinking this one for right now is going to be like doing a video chat with your friends while you’re watching the same movie. Sitting with a hot cup of tea for 15 minutes in the morning or your morning cup of coffee. Practicing deep breathing. I really appreciate the Apple Watch constantly reminding me to breathe. That practice of stopping and going through the motions of deep breathing is very relaxing. Keeping track of your accomplishments, Expressing gratitude or keeping a gratitude journal. Creating a cozy space for yourself to kind of escape to and I actually saw somebody talking about creating a room like in this weird normal we’re in creating a room for your family where you each get to spend X amount of time in said room by yourself. I think that’s really a really great idea kind of like an escape room or a sanctuary room or a tranquility room, whatever you want to call it. But allowing yourself to have the opportunity to quote-unquote escape from the rest of your family and giving your family members the same opportunity. Unplugging is a great way to take care of yourself. Create something. This is a perfect time for some creativity. There’s not much else to do, so get out and create something. Building a self-care kit and then whatever you want to include in that self-care kit, maybe it’s a face mask, or nail polish or your favorite lotion, your favorite candy, treasured photos, new pair of socks, fuzzy slippers, you know, whatever you want to put into a self-care kit, and this is also a great time to create some self-care kits for your friends and get them delivered to them.
Having a dance party, picking up yoga and Pilates, there’s a lot of studios right now doing online Pilates and yoga classes and workshops, playing a game, drawing or coloring. And then journaling is the last one that I added to my list.
But again, visit getmombalanced.com for 101 self-care activities for additional ways to take care of yourself to practice self-care because right now, it is very, very important because our routines are not the same. Our normals aren’t our normals. We are experiencing change almost on the daily. Different orders are being communicated by our governments, whether that be at the Federal level or at the local level or even at the state level. And there’s so many unknowns, especially in the event industry. We are in April, obviously, I feel like the month of March was forever and a day long and like, just getting back into events is very, very challenging at the moment because we don’t know when stay at home orders will be lifted or when gatherings whether it be 10 or less or whether they’re going to slowly stair step it out to 50 or less or 100 or less like when when is that timeline going to happen? Are we are we at a flattened curve yet for the Coronavirus within the United States or within our area? All of these things are unknowns and then how how are we going to prepare, especially in the event world, how are we going to prepare our couples for them hosting events? Are we going, is the new normal to have a temperature check at the front door and making sure that nobody has a fever when they come in or or a spiked temperature for an event is going to be the new normal? There’s so many questions that are up in the air and so many questions that probably were never thought to be questions until the Coronavirus became this pandemic.
And just taking care of yourself in all of this and practicing self-care, giving yourself a routine, giving yourself permission to take care of yourself because if you cannot take care of yourself, you’re not going to be a good mom to your kids, a good wife to your spouse. You’re not going to be a good business person. You are not going to be a great friend. And it’s just really important to take care of yourself during all of this and even beyond, beyond Corona whenever that might be. What is that going to look like? And self-care has to be a very important role in all of this, now and forever. Now and forever. And it’s just something that we have to make an effort to do. Because again, we cannot be the people we need to be for our loved ones and for our friends and for our businesses if we’re not taking care of ourselves. And so this is for sure something I need you to put a big emphasis on now and in the future.
Thank you so much to today’s show sponsor, Gusto. Again, listeners of my show get three months free when they run their first payroll. You can try a demo out for yourself and just pop over to gusto.com/bossgirl. I will be back next week with a new episode of the Boss Girl Creative podcast. Until then, I hope you have a great rest of your week.